anthros i'm really sorry to hear about your situation but i think it might be for the best if this child does not come to be. i kinda agree with klfutrelle. It seems very wierd for a women to leave her fiancee and during the week they are together for "the last time" you both get ur swerve on like rabbits (with protection i might add) and then all of a suddent she get knocked up. I would ask how long she is in her pregnancy and think back that amount of time to see "what you two where doing" at that time. also, you dont need to be with, or have ties with, a women that plays with you and your emotions like she is right now. just my opinion.
i'm thinkin she wanted to leave cause she got knocked up by the other guy....maybe her original plan was to leave rather than hurt you...but she loves you so shes looking for a way to stay with you and if you actually are willing to believe this kid is yours maybe she figures she'll run with that....dont forget bro....she was walking out the door before this happened
DING, DING, DING!! We have a winner!!!!! You've just won the million dollar question!!! Sorry bro but she got knocked up by some other dude and is trying to hide it by leaving and she wants to abort the baby because she screwed up and feels that if she gets rid of the kid then her problem will be gone too. Dump her and move on!!
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I kind of agree with what some people are saying. If she is pregnant with your child, it would suck to have her make the decision to abort without you. But like a few have stated you have no way of being sure the kid is even yours. The best coarse of action for everybody involved would be for her to abort the pregnancy. Don't you think it's a little convenient that she's leaving for other reasons, and you have protected sex with her, and all of the sudden she is pregnant and the kid is yours? Hell a week isn't even usually long enough to know if you're pregnant or not, it could have been a missed period. If she is so damn positive she is pregnant you better find out for sure how far along she is.
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Ya.... i dunno what to think. iam definantly waiting for the child to come out to get a paternity test done, she decided not to get an aportion and is now talking about adoption. and no i dont want her back in my house, she showed me how loyal she was the first time she left, i just dont want her to kill our child.
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Well before you have to wait tell her you want to go to her doctor with her and find out how far along she is. That might help clear up some issues. Not trying to sound like a dick, but giving up a child for adoption isn't as easy as you might think. After the child is born you might not want to give it away.
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After re-reading your OP, you said your fiance was unhappy before she left. Maybe that's what it is...she just isnt happy, and in a way breaking it off.
How long were you two together? You know when she gets her monthly? Those are some things that can help you find out if thats the real reason...
Well here's the deal, 3 weeks ago my fiance told me that she was unhappy and was leaving and moving 500 miles away back to her hometown to live with her parents. We continued living with each other for 1 week before she left. During that time we screwed like rabits, spent more money on rubber than i do on gas, and never once went swimming without my life jacket on. She called me today, said she just got back from the doctor and she's prego. She said that she thinks that she wants to get an abortion, call me old fassion, but i do not believe in abortion, its killing a kid before they have goten a chance to enter this world. I personally think that its ****ed up that she just wants to kill our kid. She's calling me tomorrow so we can talk about what she is going to do...... i Dunno what to do right now, iam so pissed.
cliff notes.
1. Fiance says she's leavin. 2. screw like rabits for a week before she does move. 3. she calls and says she's prego. 4. she wants to kill our kid.
And i swear if i hear one in the butt remark........
This is the reason that people should not have sex before marriage. Cause marriage is a formal agreement that you are going to (essentially) agree to be good parents, among other things. If you (or both) were NOT ready to be good parents, essentially, you're not ready to be having sex cause kids are often the by-product of sex.
But hey, I know this idea doesn't always fly cause people are naturally really horny and there are so many hot, but totally crazy, people out there, so you get yourself understandably hooked up with some hot chick who you don't really love (or she doesn't love you) and the consequences are... unwanted child.
Sad story, but I seriously give you kudos for opposing abortion since it's appalling, crude, disgusting, murderous, selfish, and abhorrent practice which should never have been made legal in this country with the exception of extenuating circumstances. Since 99% of all abortions are just retroactive birth control, there's just no excuse for it.
I hope my list of negative adjectives really riles someone up so we can clearly separate the men from the boys (so to speak) based on those that get offended. Yea, I know it's a personal subject, and I find it reprehensible that it is socially acceptable to admit you don't mind killing kids. And if you don't think it's killing, you just have not done the research, you're too arrogant to consider the topic honestly, or your too wrapped up in yourself to care about the truth anyway. I'll gladly go into more detail about WHY it's not morally acceptable IMO but I'm pretty certain that most people who would argue have no conscience to speak of and will not listen to me anyway.
Just to illustrate my position, let me ask you a question. Does life really start at birth? Why not allow infanticide at 1 year old? All the same abortion arguments might apply. A one year old cannot walk, talk, singe, dance, hunt, barely freakin eats. So, why do they need protection under the law??? Because they are human children, you blind fool! Children in the womb are biologically no different than children outside the womb. There is NO DISTINGUISHABLE line, whether moral or scientific, to determine WHEN a fetus becomes viable or living human. Therefore, they should be afforded the same rights as any child outside the womb. To suggest otherwise is ignorant and evil whether you realize it or not.
Incidentally my (hopefully obvious) rage about this topic is, honestly, NOT directed toward people who have already HAD the procedure. IMO they are victims of a war greater then themselves. I would not want to make them feel bad, guilt or even punishment for those actions is not what I am after. I'm preaching instead to those on the fence, those who think they WOULD in the future commit such an act, those that publicly suggest it's moral, and those who have dominion over the laws of our nation.
I'd just like to see less than 1.3 million abortions performed in the US every year. God, forgive us.
Well here's the deal, 3 weeks ago my fiance told me that she was unhappy and was leaving and moving 500 miles away back to her hometown to live with her parents. We continued living with each other for 1 week before she left. During that time we screwed like rabits, spent more money on rubber than i do on gas, and never once went swimming without my life jacket on. She called me today, said she just got back from the doctor and she's prego. She said that she thinks that she wants to get an abortion, call me old fassion, but i do not believe in abortion, its killing a kid before they have goten a chance to enter this world. I personally think that its ****ed up that she just wants to kill our kid. She's calling me tomorrow so we can talk about what she is going to do...... i Dunno what to do right now, iam so pissed.
cliff notes.
1. Fiance says she's leavin. 2. screw like rabits for a week before she does move. 3. she calls and says she's prego. 4. she wants to kill our kid.
And i swear if i hear one in the butt remark........
This is the reason that people should not have sex before marriage. Cause marriage is a formal agreement that you are going to (essentially) agree to be good parents, among other things. If you (or both) were NOT ready to be good parents, essentially, you're not ready to be having sex cause kids are often the by-product of sex.
But hey, I know this idea doesn't always fly cause people are naturally really horny and there are so many hot, but totally crazy, people out there, so you get yourself understandably hooked up with some hot chick who you don't really love (or she doesn't love you) and the consequences are... unwanted child.
Sad story, but I seriously give you kudos for opposing abortion since it's appalling, crude, disgusting, murderous, selfish, and abhorrent practice which should never have been made legal in this country with the exception of extenuating circumstances. Since 99% of all abortions are just retroactive birth control, there's just no excuse for it.
I hope my list of negative adjectives really riles someone up so we can clearly separate the men from the boys (so to speak) based on those that get offended. Yea, I know it's a personal subject, and I find it reprehensible that it is socially acceptable to admit you don't mind killing kids. And if you don't think it's killing, you just have not done the research, you're too arrogant to consider the topic honestly, or your too wrapped up in yourself to care about the truth anyway. I'll gladly go into more detail about WHY it's not morally acceptable IMO but I'm pretty certain that most people who would argue have no conscience to speak of and will not listen to me anyway.
Just to illustrate my position, let me ask you a question. Does life really start at birth? Why not allow infanticide at 1 year old? All the same abortion arguments might apply. A one year old cannot walk, talk, singe, dance, hunt, barely freakin eats. So, why do they need protection under the law??? Because they are human children, you blind fool! Children in the womb are biologically no different than children outside the womb. There is NO DISTINGUISHABLE line, whether moral or scientific, to determine WHEN a fetus becomes viable or living human. Therefore, they should be afforded the same rights as any child outside the womb. To suggest otherwise is ignorant and evil whether you realize it or not.
Incidentally my (hopefully obvious) rage about this topic is, honestly, NOT directed toward people who have already HAD the procedure. IMO they are victims of a war greater then themselves. I would not want to make them feel bad, guilt or even punishment for those actions is not what I am after. I'm preaching instead to those on the fence, those who think they WOULD in the future commit such an act, those that publicly suggest it's moral, and those who have dominion over the laws of our nation.
I'd just like to see less than 1.3 million abortions performed in the US every year. God, forgive us.
Infanticide FTL.
if this were jerry springer (and with this motley crew it feels like it) i'd be screaming "go to oprah!! go to oprah!!"
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maybe she was just afraid to have a child it's a huge responsibility and if she wasn't ready to commit to a relationship, it's likely she wouldn't be ready to be tied down to a child that needs constant attention
alrighty.. so.. yeah.. first off, shes obviously chose against abortion so +1 for you.. idk where she/you live.. but most laws say that if the child is born and the mother wants to give it up but the dad doesnt, it will legally go to the dad.. courts want to keep babies with parents.. be it one or both parents.. thats why so many children are living with their abusing parents, bec courts still give them benifit of the doubt for some dumb reason..
ANYWAYS.. unless shes a dumb cnt and goes to the adoption ppl and says she doesnt know who the dad is, you will (or atleast should) be contacted bec you have to sign the adoption papers to turn over all parental right too.. thats the only reason i kept my daughter.. bec i wanted to give her up cuz i knew i wasnt adult enough to keep her at 16, but her daddy was like ill keep her!! and he was a fkin garbage and i didnt want her going to him so i kept her.. but uh.. yeah.. enought of my problems.. just lettin you know..
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IF you are thinking about keeping it should she want to give it up, DO NOT SIGN the birth certificate until you get a DNA test(IF YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS). In some states, once you sign the birth certificate you are the daddy regardless of if it is really yours and a pain in the butt to get your name off...
Hell, even if shes thinking about keeping it, get the DNA test before you sign the BC. Cause you may end up paying child support for a kid that ain't yours.
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goin through some similar stuff right now too man....but i know for a fact she was out whoreing around, so of course things weren't good between us, then she started coming around again, and then took off and haven't heard anything from her in about 4 months - then, her mom calls me up tellin me i should be more involved, etc....um, if she doesn't call me or return my calls, and i have no idea where she's even at now, how is that supposed to happen???
"girls are the antichrist" THAT IS GREAT lol...they used to have a segment on the radio called "proof women are inheritly evil" with stories sometimes similar to this one
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