as a medical student with one semester left before becoming a psychiatrist, this is a simple everyday situation,not a problem....you want sex like most guys do and he isn't that interested anymore....how old are you and how old is he? are you married? first off, you need to be positive that he isn't getting it from someone else.....as some have mentioned, guys get bored with even a freaky girl...the problem is the cycle never stops..the grass is always greener and so forth. the problem is the grass isn't greener...most guys dump a perfectly hot woman for another and then he dumps her...is a never ending cycle....the man must weigh the pros and cons...sure, strange pussy is good, but is it worth it? there is no right or wrong answer to this question......i have been married for 3 years and have a son. my wife and i have sex when 'we' want too....we both work hard and sometimes we are too tired for grudge fkn......my marriage is based on love not sex...(and i am not gay)i love her and she is my heart......she has offered sex to me before and i have said,"not tonight." we are very open with each other....we get wild and absolutely nasty every week...sometimes, she pleasures me before i go to sleep because she enjoys making me happy and vice versa...the whole point is, if you are just in it for sex, get out! there are a million guys jerking off to porn right now that would love to meet your insides......have you asked him why he doesn't like to fck you that much? is he depressed? there are so many ingredients to this fck recipe that you are in right now.....try talking......real men say what's on their minds....however, it might not be what you want to here....when someone checks up on you all the time, that is a dirrect indicator of low self esteem and the possibilty of him fckn someone else! for what it's worth
First, seperate with some paragraphs...helps a lot.
Second, everyone already told her what you said in the first portion...you just dragged it out and made it boring.
Third, if your going to introduce your personal life to shine some kind of light on her problem, then you have to point out how what your saying is relivant to her problem or how it may be part to her finding a solution.
"Real men say whats on thier minds"? get over yourself. There are many reasons why men would say whats on thier minds...for instance: Maybe he dosnt want to hurt her feelings, as you may know doing that would be worse to some guys. -------
OP, he may just be bored...plan and simple. Wether its because you give it to him to easily or tired of the same routine or maybe he's just not in to you anymore. Why do i say this? Because NO GUY in his right mind would turn down sex when someone he's in to comes knockin. Unless the guy is half dead then MAYBE. Put up a poll to see how many guys do turn it down.
Advice to you, if he dosnt shape up soon, leave him. Your time is better spent being happy than being unhappy, unappreciated, and not satisfied.
1. do you love each other? Its hard enough to be in a relationship when you are in love, so if your not, I am sure its much harder.
2. Maybe he feels like you dont give him the chance to initiate "the chase". My hubby likes the chase. Sometimes, early in the day, he may say something to me, and I will tell him I have too much to do, and dont have time for such nonsense now. lol He knows by the tone of my voice that the chase is on. That makes him think about nothing else, and we end up flirting and laughing for the next few hours. We have 4 kids so its very subtle, (maybe a look, or me standing a certain way, him grabbing me by the waist etc.) but it sure makes him determined. By the time the kids are in the bed, he is chasing me all over the house. lol We run around and laugh like two kids..........oh, but when he catches me.....WOW!!!
3. Maybe with you always seeming to want more, he feels like he cant satisfy you, and nothing would be more insulting to his manhood than feeling like he isnt doing a good job at fooling around.
I had one more thought but cant think of it now. lol
We have been married for 13 years, and they werent all great. Our third year was pretty bad, but we knew we love each other, and worked it out. Now our relationship is better than ever. I am so in love with him that when he drives in the yard, my heart pitter-patters. He seems to feel the same way about me. Our bond seems to get stronger everyday, but we had to really work to get to this point. I hope you get things worked out with him and all goes well.
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Wow, I wish I found a girl that was horny all the damn time! My ex was just as horny as me when we first started out, and then it slowly died. It's like the same situation as you have. The sex was rough, I always had scratches on me, hell, we had a whole ****ing restrain system. Then she just stopped, stopped giving BJs, stopped being on top, stopped doing anything. Sex became boring as hell. It was just me doing everything.
ok.. im gonna straighten some things out first cuz they went outta porportion..
1. when he got his wings neither of us knew i was ragging/going to be.. he went there and said it tasted funny and then later after the crazy sex that turned into crime scene sex we realized why.. and he promptly got grossed out.. which i dont blame him, i was too.. and i wouldnt want him to go there if i was like that.. i mean.. i gotta kiss him ya know?
2. i have been known to throw a complete fit if i try to start something and he turns me down and he gets pissed that i act like im 5 bec im not getting it.. so i know doing sshyt like that hasnt helped a thing..
3. we dont get much time alone together.. we both have 2 jobs and i know he has got to be exhausted when he works from 6a-10p multiple nights in a row.. and i try to think about that but it really usually goes out the window when i see him out workign on his bike or in the garage and then comes and sits on the cpu forever and then we start to go to bed and i try to initate something and he says hes tired.. it just irritates me
4. i do love him.. we've been together for a year this sunday (my second longest relationship ever).. we've lived together for like 8 mths now.. im happy with the relationship.. hes the funnest nicest guy ive ever been with.. im 24.. already been married.. have a 7 y/o daughter (but shes hardly ever around).. and i know he loves me bec some of the fights we have i can see it hurts him.. and when ive accused him of cheating i can see that hurt him too so i really doubt he is.. plus with our HUGE circle of friends and little town i dont think it would get past me for too long..
5. i really think it is me being pushy.. it probably does hurt his manhood a little that i complain i dont get enough.. sorry mach.. im not really a dilo kinda girl.. i like the real thing.. but yeah.. whenever we go a time without it and i push him off me bec he comes at me when im in the middle of something he either gets irritated or keeps on and on and on and then it gets fun..
i appreciate you guys' advice though.. now all i need is for him to browse through this and find this thread heh
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Wow, I wish I found a girl that was horny all the damn time!
as i said before.. its not like hes the only one this has happened to.. every relationship ive gotten physical in this has happened.. guy is all super happy and gloats that hes gota girl that wants to bang all the time and doesnt care if shes woken up at 6a for it or pulled away from cooking dinner for it.. it all fades.. and ive asked why.. and none of them could give me an answer.. one guy say i got boring.. but i was already wanting to leave the relationship so i knew that was why.. lol.. the ex husband hated i never wanted to be on top.. but i hated even having anything to do with him so i didnt care about that either..
mach knows
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ok.. im gonna straighten some things out first cuz they went outta porportion..
1. when he got his wings neither of us knew i was ragging/going to be.. he went there and said it tasted funny and then later after the crazy sex that turned into crime scene sex we realized why.. and he promptly got grossed out.. which i dont blame him, i was too.. and i wouldnt want him to go there if i was like that.. i mean.. i gotta kiss him ya know?
probably already said, but that could've turn him off, and ruined the whole thing completely..but i wouldnt know.
2. i have been known to throw a complete fit if i try to start something and he turns me down and he gets pissed that i act like im 5 bec im not getting it.. so i know doing sshyt like that hasnt helped a thing..
yeah, that dosnt help, my ex pulled the same crap...after you start whining about it then makes it feel like a chore
3. we dont get much time alone together.. we both have 2 jobs and i know he has got to be exhausted when he works from 6a-10p multiple nights in a row.. and i try to think about that but it really usually goes out the window when i see him out workign on his bike or in the garage and then comes and sits on the cpu forever and then we start to go to bed and i try to initate something and he says hes tired.. it just irritates me
If that isnt throwing you a HUGE clue to what we've been telling you, i dont know what is. Again, it REALLY wouldnt matter how tired guys are...dont fool yourself.............i worked 2 jobs too 5am - 10pm + few hours up at home...trust me, a guy WILL hump
4. i do love him.. we've been together for a year this sunday (my second longest relationship ever).. we've lived together for like 8 mths now.. im happy with the relationship.. hes the funnest nicest guy ive ever been with.. im 24.. already been married.. have a 7 y/o daughter (but shes hardly ever around).. and i know he loves me bec some of the fights we have i can see it hurts him.. and when ive accused him of cheating i can see that hurt him too so i really doubt he is.. plus with our HUGE circle of friends and little town i dont think it would get past me for too long..
dosnt seem like you have the best sense of judgement either...FYI, some guys can fake emotions just as well as the stereotypical woman can.......im not sayin HE is, im just sayin
5. i really think it is me being pushy.. it probably does hurt his manhood a little that i complain i dont get enough.. sorry mach.. im not really a dilo kinda girl.. i like the real thing.. but yeah.. whenever we go a time without it and i push him off me bec he comes at me when im in the middle of something he either gets irritated or keeps on and on and on and then it gets fun..
+1 to that
i appreciate you guys' advice though.. now all i need is for him to browse through this and find this thread heh
..... 2. Maybe he feels like you dont give him the chance to initiate "the chase". My hubby likes the chase. Sometimes, early in the day, he may say something to me, and I will tell him I have too much to do, and dont have time for such nonsense now. lol He knows by the tone of my voice that the chase is on. That makes him think about nothing else, and we end up flirting and laughing for the next few hours. We have 4 kids so its very subtle, (maybe a look, or me standing a certain way, him grabbing me by the waist etc.) but it sure makes him determined. By the time the kids are in the bed, he is chasing me all over the house. lol We run around and laugh like two kids..........oh, but when he catches me.....WOW!!!
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+1 to OT. Guys love a good chase... at least I do
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i see him out workign on his bike or in the garage and then comes and sits on the cpu forever and then we start to go to bed and i try to initate something and he says hes tired..
Sounds to me like sex isn't the only form of intimacy that is apparently suffering.
Sex is a good thing, when you do too much of it. it gets old and basically its not exciting, In most cases guys are the horn dogs and want sex way too often and this often causes sex to get old fast and feel like a chore. Try not asking for sex for about a month. he'll notice it for sure i gurantee it.
Edit: My bf dated a girl that loved sex, thats all she ever wanted was sex. well having sex got old fast he said, Sometimes guys need a break from having sex, like a cool down, but eventually my bf broke up with her because of that reason.
My store: I dated a guy that was so F'ing horny, he wanted to rush into all the sex positions, basically tried to Fuk me to death "15 times in one day" i eventually broke up with that dude for one of those reasons. After that guy i hated sex, couldnt stand it, and i constantly tell my guy right now to not wear out sex for me.
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Is anyone else getting horny while reading this? LOL
I am a male nympho, I must say. I want it all the time... ALL the time. But my girlfriend is lazier than Jaba The Hut when it comes to sexy-time. I think I'm going to stop initiating sex and just use a fleshlight before we hang out. Maybe she'll dry up inside and want me again.
Hell I'm going at it right now as I type! Amazing isn't it???
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Is anyone else getting horny while reading this? LOL
I am a male nympho, I must say. I want it all the time... ALL the time. But my girlfriend is lazier than Jaba The Hut when it comes to sexy-time. I think I'm going to stop initiating sex and just use a fleshlight before we hang out. Maybe she'll dry up inside and want me again.
Hell I'm going at it right now as I type! Amazing isn't it???
major lose, she wont want it if shes lazy, lazy girls suck :ugg:
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